How to know if i am dating a loser
If they have even the slightest doubt about your intentions they will hold back.So whatever you would normally do to indicate your interest to a confident man, double or triple it for a shy man (in proportion to his shyness): While I don't suggest that you overtly ask out a shy guy on an "official" date (this would too flagrantly undermine what he knows to be his role as described above), I do suggest that you suggest and then ask him to hang out under casual pretenses.Of course, he will question this over and over in his mind, wondering whether you were asking him to hang out just to be friends, or if you wanted something more.So show him that you want something more - ask repeatedly.
This is true, but handling this situation isn't as simple as you might think...
The reason for this is that shy men are more concerned with avoiding the social catastrophe of asking you out and failing than they are of getting you.
This is what prevents them from taking the initiative in the first place.
That offense will reflect negatively on you and the relationship.
So be careful about how much (and which) initiative you take.
Unfortunately there is no easy way to discern his true intentions without putting yourself on the line over and over again, and seeing how he responds.